Confessions Of A Talkaholic

It feels great to sometimes ponder over what true love is. Love has been described in so many ways by so many people and has been compared to many things but weirdness is something different. I came across a quote on some site by Robert Fulghum whom I don’t know and it states……

“When we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall into mutually satisfying weirdness – and call it love – true love.” Robert Fulghum

As I read this quote, I instantly liked it and believed every word of it. Not many people term themselves as weird but I truly think that we all are weird in our own way. Everyone feels weird at some point in their life, whether it is a first date, first kiss, first time you have sex, first pregnancy, first interview, first public speech, presentation and many more moments in the life that might not even be the firsts for someone. Most people think of weirdness as a negative notion but in my opinion weirdness is just indifference from a certain standard that is termed as normal by the self-proclaimed “normal” people of our society. If we look closely, we will see that everyone has some level of weirdness in them because it is all about ones perception of another person. If I don’t know of something that you say or have then I will automatically think that you are weird to even think of a notion that is not known or own something that is out of the ordinary and vice versa.

I believe that love is also about weirdness. When someone is looking for love or is in love then that person does a lot of things that are out of the ordinary and somtimes even against their own nature or rationalism. Once we attain that true love, we look back and just laugh at our weirdness but in reality we are still living in that weirdness because we have now found our soulmate that is compatible with us at many levels including weirdness by either being tolerant of our weirdness or being actually weird like us. That must be fun….and we can actually in good fun then say….what a bunch of weirdos…lol….honestly, that is an amazing sense of accomplishment when you find the weirdo that is meant for you and I truly hope that you the reader have either found yours or will find them soon…good luck!

These days it seems like either everyone is having an early mid-life crisis or they are just learning to aptly adapt to the changing times. I think there is a very fine line between the two. The dilemma that most people face these days is…for example when it comes to careers…should they stick to the career they went to school for or should they change to something they love to do and have been meaning to do for a long time or change to something that makes them a little more marketable plus earns them an extra buck? For those of you who are super smart, have the job of your dreams or already earn big bucks…. please stop reading here….because this would just go way over your heads and will sound non-sensical to you….no offence, I know you are smart but maybe book smart I say.

Like I was saying…the dilemma! Some people term this dilemma as an early mid-life crisis while others with a bit more optimistic outlook consider it just pondering over options to adapt to the changing times…after all we are living in the 21st century. So I wonder….is it true that we all are just trying to adapt to the changing times by changing careers or even our outlook in life OR is it just a cover-up for another mid-life crisis?

Perhaps some of us think that it is a mid-life crisis and we start to panic as a result do all kinds of weird things. Although, even if we didn’t panic, we would still do weird things….afterall, we are adapting and to adapt, we have to change something which means we try different things that we have never done before. These could easily be weird for some people depending on how crazy one gets….also it would be a perception issue i.e. how and what one perceives of another. So, all this would mean that we are adapting even if we are having a mid-life crisis…which means, it is all interrelated and is subjective.

Although, I still think that people use the term mid-life crisis quite conveniently and without even knowing what it is…hell I don’t even know what it is but then again how would I know…I am not even middle-aged yet! It’s just something that people use so loosely around me that I thought I should ponder over it…it does deserve some face-time afterall… !

Yesterday I drove on the highway to meet friends in downtown. While driving, I saw a car stopped on the side of the highway and some 20 something guys standing and doing their business. I felt so disgusted for a moment but then started wondering….is it justified to go anywhere you can when nature comes knocking or should you hold till the next exit especially since the next exit was not even 500 yards away? Got me thinking and inspired a debate with some friends….a mix set of friends in terms of gender. Interesting to hear gender opinions. The Venus group mostly finds it disgusting while the Mars club members think that when you gotta go you gotta go. Why then I wonder, when a man is driving on a long distance trip always cribs about the woman wanting to stop at a rest stop to answer nature’s call even though it is also a favour to him as he might get to use a proper washroom to answer his call rather than parking on the highway and standing shamelessly showing the world how they answer Nature’s call in nature?