I am so over you….am I not?

I was having a deep conversation with a friend who was married for over 35yrs and one day their spouse just left them. They were telling me how a day before that was exactly 10yrs since the spouse left. It took them 10yrs to come to terms with it and truly get over them. You might think…what a sap, it takes them this long to get over a relationship… well for starters those two had been together sine they were 13, migrated to this country together, struggled together, got married, had 3 beautiful kids and lots of success and wealth. How can then someone after so long just walk out you would wonder…well it happens to the best of them. I guess people just change after a while….their likes change and everything starts to fall apart. In that case, how does one get over someone….? Well, I guess getting over someone is not that easy and sometimes one never does but at other times it just happens or we just make ourselves believe that we are over someone and then that belief eventually becomes a reality. Although, that reality can come crashing down in any given weak moment. This friend had several of those weak moments in the past 10yrs but over time they just realized that they don’t ever want to go back to that anymore even if the opportunity did arise…it is like an awakening….one day you just wake up and say…I am so over that person who has caused me all this grief in my life and boom…..you are over them. Not so easy for everyone but I truly believe that if one gives themselves an opportunity to move forward with their life then it definitely happens…it is a frame of mind…a psychological issue where one must muster their strength to think optimistically and, positively move forward in a direction that leads them out of their past into their future….everyone deserves to be happy…that’s my strong belief…you get one life and you have to make the most of it.

 

Another Twilight post……

A friend who is a die-hard fan of the Twilight series especially the books, told me about the following song sung by this 17yr old girl called Greta Smidt. Upon hearing the song, I was absolutely blown away with the depth of the emotions in the words and in Greta’s voice. It is so magical, soulful and romantic that you just get lost in the moment. It transports you back to the movie, to the scenes between Edward and Bella…the scenes that have no words but each one just gazing at each other with hunger for each other. A hunger that surpasses every limit but a hunger that is so different for each of the two. It makes me want to watch the movie again….for the 3rd time that is…

Bella’s Lullaby by Greta Smidt

 

Are you the melody I want?

I feel the music in the air…it’s the music of spring,
The music of new beginnings,
The music of beauty in every particle,
It’s the music I hear from within,
It’s there because of you…..you are like a melody,
Why then I cannot commit to you, I wonder?
Is it the feeling of being bound when I want to be free,
Or is it that your unconditional love is what I can’t see?
I hear your voice in the silence,
It’s the voice of your soul,
It’s the sound of your heartbeat,
I feel you in every part of my being,
So, why can’t I give myself to you?
Is it because I am scared of your love?
Or is it because I am afraid to accept you?
Or is it because I am looking for something more?
I am confused and apprehensive,
And that makes me defensive,
If I take a chance,
Will you give me another glance?
I want to feel the melody that is you,
And make a fresh start that is completely new!
…………….to be continued………..!!!!!!!!!

 

Life and Death….a full circle!

I had an interesting chat with a friend today and was amazed at their positive outlook. It was interesting to see how my friend accepted their grandfather’s death on their birthday as a full circle. My friend described it as a connection from their birth to their grandpa’s death….like a full circle. It was like the gp’s end was my friend’s beginning but with a connection…a soulful connection which was amazing, deep and thought provocative connection. Even though my friend isn’t born that day after the gp’s death, still that connection of their gp’s death to their b’day will always be memorable for them. It’s one of the most important and memorable moments of their life and my friend sees this in a positive light with happy thoughts about their connection with their gp….interesting concept and understanding I must say but very soulful!